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  • November 5, 2015 at 3:37 pm #86819
    Anonymous
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    So I wrote about this a week ago –

    My brother is dating an Angela, that name seems to revolve in my life a lot ever since the day I met my ex Angela. No, I don’t wish for these things, they just happen. Strange right? I know.

    So I met my brothers GF last week on this very day (Thursday) for a birthday lunch and then later for dinner. Since then, we’ve all been spending a lot of time together. Like going out to brunch and dinner. We are all actually going out tonight to one of my favorite restaurants in 30 minutes, we are all meeting at my house and going to enjoy ourselves before I leave town again on Monday. Since meeting Angela #2 we get along superbly! We talk about food a lot since she’s a pescetarian, eats no meat, dairy or eggs. Her stomach doesn’t digest the eggs and dairy she says, funny as I have the same issue with meat & dairy. Anyway, so she’s a really girl and I love her for my brother. My little brother tended to pick a girlfriend who resembles a lot of my qualities which is rather interesting.

    As far as my ex is concerned, well it doesn’t bother me that there’s yet another Angela in my life. My family believes that I am going to end up with another Angela too, since Angela’s tend to revolve around me life. I had a lesbian friend named Angela but she has since moved to Oregon with her partner 3 years ago, after finishing her Ph.D. Haven’t spoken to that Angela in awhile now. I will end say that I don’t know what the future currently holds for my ex and I. I have a lot of close relationships with many friends, maybe one of those relationships may or may not turn into anything. Regardless, I am very grateful with what I have going on in my life right now. I work a lot and travel the world a lot. My love life well, there’s a lot of potential but you know I like to get to know the girl as a friend first and see where that leads us.

    I go with whatever is meant to be really… Maybe I am meant to be back with my ex Angela in the future or maybe I am meant to be with someone else. I’ve said this to many people before, I trust the universe on who’s meant to be in my life as my partner (female only) so whatever woman is meant to be with me, I trust that.

    November 6, 2015 at 4:21 am #86846
    Inky
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    Hi Elle Tinker700,

    I hate to say it, but Angela isn’t an UN-common name! It’s like Jennifer, Mike or Chris. I wouldn’t read too much into it. I do share your belief in that the Universe will match you with the person you’re meant to be with!

    Blessings,

    Inky

    November 6, 2015 at 6:14 am #86848
    Anonymous
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    Thanks Inky 🙂

    But in my circumstances with the history I’ve had with my ex for the past 6 years, it’s extremely odd. If the situation was turned around, she would find it odd too and start wondering as well. Being a woman, I have very good intuition and sensitive to strange coincidences. These things are warning signs.

    November 6, 2015 at 8:27 am #86854
    Madikejla
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    Dear ElleTinker700,

    First of all, I am really sorry that your relationship with your own Angela ended. I do know and understand the pain and emotional turmoil that one goes through after a break-up. From what I can read and interpret from your posts it seems you are doing your best and making good progress.

    However, I found your reply to Inky very interesting and that prompted me to write to you.
    I can’t assess whether you do have a very good intuition or not, but I am satisfied to take your word for it for now.
    You wrote in your latest post that these are “warning signs”. I wanted to ask you if you could comment a bit more on that. Why do you interpret this as such? What do you think they are warning you of? And most importantly who is actually doing the warning? I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

    I would also like to share my own perspective with you, in the hope that it might be useful for you. I certainly do NOT claim that I hold the truth or that my opinion is in any way more valid than yours. Therefore, please bear with me and take everything I say with the necessary grain of salt 🙂

    I was wondering whether you might still be far too involved in the grieving process to be able to judge this objectively. What do you think? The reason I am asking you this is that, under difficult emotional circumstances, people can be quite biased into seeing coincidences and reading more into them than they would in a more relaxed frame of mind.
    Just as an example, when a dear friend announces that she is pregnant it is quite likely that we start seeing quite a lot of pregnant women on a daily basis. It may feel like a coincidence, but it could simply be that due to the emotional charge of knowing our dear friend is going to have a baby soon we are simply more prone to noticing pregnant women than before.
    An ex’s name is in itself very emotionally charged. I, myself, have been unpleasantly surprised by how popular my ex’s named appeared to be after our break up. But it wasn’t that the name had become more popular than before. It just made my heart crumble everytime I heard it. That’s why I tended to watch out for it and hence hear it more often. What do you think?

    Lastly, I was wondering whether you would consider shifting your attention (from your ex and her name that’s still present in your life) to yourself, your hobbies, your own happiness and well being.

    I personally don’t believe that the Universe is sending us messages. However, you seem to believe it does and I completely respect that. If you do believe in this, how about you try and interpret this message in a way that is helpful for you. Maybe the only thing the Universe is telling you is that it’s high time you started to care for yourself, love yourself and focus on your own happiness. What do you think?

    You are a strong person. No matter what happens to any of the Angelas in your life you’ll always have yourself by your side.

    I’m sending you my best wishes,
    Maddie

    November 6, 2015 at 1:40 pm #86874
    Anonymous
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    Hi Madeleiene –

    Thank you for taking the time to respond to me, the situation with my ex is a very tough thing to understand unless you have been walking in my shoes for the last 6 years. I know these signs quite well when my ex’s name starts popping up a lot and all of the sudden and re-appearing in my life. They are indefinitely signs… I know this because it used to happen before my ex came back into my life 5 years ago and while we were together and something always came of it. It usually starts with a dream of positive interactions and then the name popping back into my life again. I know these patterns quite well enough to not ignore them. No, I’m not creating these things, just happens at random unexpected times. It’s not just with her this happens with but with other people too. As I’ve gotten older I know the difference between regular/irrelevant dreams and dreams that are warning me that something will transpire with someone. I had a dream about my best friend in August that something at work was going to go down with her and another co-worker. I told her about it and then 3 weeks later when we all forget about it, it happened and I reminded her about the dream I had warning me. She was stunned too after the fact but she remembered how I warned her 3 weeks prior. I’ve been having dreams that have given me insight into my future since I was a child, I know the difference between the relevant & non-relevant dreams.

    I have many hobbies and I am happy with my life right now, no complaints but I will tell you that I’m not going to ignore signs like the ones I’m having, as I know better not to. My emotional circumstances are not that difficult with my ex as I know her well enough about how she is. I’m sorry I’ve been posting about her in the last week, I’m not going to post about her anymore because this is all too confusing for people who don’t understand the situation. Everything will be fine because I am a positive person and trust the universe that whatever is meant to be is going to be. I’ve always had faith in that and everything always works out for the greater good. <3

    Thank you again for you time 🙂

    Sending a bunch of positivity, love and light your way.

    – Namaste

    November 7, 2015 at 12:15 am #86911
    Madikejla
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    Dear ElleTinker700,

    Many, many thanks for your reply and for answering my questions. I really appreciated your detailed explanation and the insight you shared with me/us on tinybuddha.

    Even though my personal beliefs differ (and thank goodness for that, otherwise it’d be a very boring world :-)), I do feel I understand where you’re coming from. I understand your reasoning much better and I deeply respect it.

    I am very glad to hear that you are in a good place in your life right now. I do hope you stay strong and continue on this path.

    One last thing. It is true that, based on let’s say the frequency with which you have mentioned your ex in your previous posts, I interpreted that as a sign that you are still grieving for your relationship. But that is nothing more than my own interpretation, it’s obviously not a fact. Therefore, even if it may be a bit confusing at first, please feel free to talk and post about her as much as you want as long as you feel sure it doesn’t cause you unnecessary pain and distress.

    My best wishes,
    Maddie

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