Yes! You are so right, anita.

At a certain point I realized I needed to focus on my feelings, my reactions, rather than try to psychoanalyze someone I barely knew, or thought I knew. This runs counter to my “let’s solve this issue” kind of mindset. I am learning that not everyone views the world in the same way, that things I take for granted (push and pull in a relationship, empathy, etc.) aren’t always in everyone’s toolkit. This doesn’t necessarily make them a bad person, nor is it healthy for me to go around blaming them for these lacks… but it does mean they are not people that are good for me, or that I need or should want in my life.

I am working on being more mindful which is a struggle for most but especially for anxious types, I believe.

I am learning to be patient and seeing what comes to me. This doesn’t mean I do nothing to better myself, but rather to be patient with the process (may it be slow or fast).

With gratitude

— LW