Shayne,

Without hearing more specifics, it is difficult to know what’s happening. A guess is perhaps you feel love is something we have to earn, rather than something we have to share. Many self help books and blogs and articles mention that we have to love ourselves first, but what does that even mean? Why is that true? Consider that as we share our love with one another, we inspire it in each other.

Consider self love much like a campfire. You sit next to it, tend it, and have light and warmth. Then, you meet a pretty woman, and instead of “will she love me”, you can invite her to rest by your fire. “Yes, here there is warmth and light. You are welcome to share this space with me if you wish to.” Said differently, “Yes, my heart is full of love and light. You are welcome to share.”

Something more specific would require a little more depth on your side. Feel free to share more of what happens along your path, friend!

With warmth,
Matt

Hey I’m almost 40 , been married , been in all sort of different relationships before and after the marriage and never truly found love . Thought I had , boy did I ever , but nothing really panned out . But I am hopeful that one day it will happen . When I am exactly where I want to be in life (career-wise etc) and truly happy with myself it will happen . I believe in magic and I believe that love is the most beautiful , magical thing . Right now my focus is elsewhere (work) but who knows what can happen in the future . Just believe . Don’t worry , enjoy your life in other ways .
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