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    woollyworm53
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    The TLDR of my current work situation is this:

     

    My husband’s job moves us around every 6 months. I have thus been trying to find a new job every six months. So far, for 2 of the six month rotations, I have been able to find jobs. I absolutely hated my first job to the point I would hope I would have car accidents just to avoid going in to the office (not the best fit for me!) However, toward the end, I learned to accept that sometimes, we have to accept tough situations for what they are, and not all jobs will be dreamy/perfect. I found peace, and right about then, we moved again, and I told myself I would never work at that job again. I found another job at the new place, but now we are back at the same city we started, and my 1st job is potentially up for grabs.

    Should I work the same job that I hated but eventually found peace with a betray myself by doing the thing I said I would not? The only benefit is that I would have a stable job, of which I have been looking for around 4 months now, and the bills would be paid. My husband and I are doing OK financially now, but there’s no guarantee I will find another job if we move again, so I feel like maybe it’s a good idea to get the extra $ and just stick it out until the next time we move, since the next time we move it might be a foreign country and I may not be able to work.

     

    Any thoughts?

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    Anonymous
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    Dear woollyworm53:

    You hated that job but then you found peace doing it. If you hated it and didn’t find peace, the answer would be easier, to not return to a job you hated that much, since the bills can be paid otherwise, for now. But you found peace and didn’t hate it eventually?

    Something you wrote April stuck to my mind: “I was always the invisible person, a quiet soul  lost in noise, the person that after 12 years at the same school nobody even knew my name”-

    my advice is that your choice will be about making yourself visible, about speaking up and making your own noise, loud and clear, so that people will hear you and know your name!

    anita

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    woollyworm53
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    Hi Anita!

     

    Thank you for your response 🙂 It is true that I found peace (i.e., I stopped resisting it so hard, and was able to go to work without hoping for car accidents) but I never found joy. I still disliked the work, but I was OK with disliking it.

     

    I ended up deciding not to betray what I had told myself before, and did not take the job. Like you said, bills can be paid otherwise. It was a tough decision, as I have been looking for employment for some time now, but in the end, I believe I made the right choice. I finally was able to make my own choice and not rely on others, which was hard and full of doubt, but I guess a step in the right direction!

     

    Again, thank you for your encouragement!

    #235513
    Anonymous
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    Dear woollyworm53:

    You are welcome. I am glad you chose to not betray yourself! Post again anytime and I will be glad to reply to you.

    anita

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