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  • January 31, 2014 at 4:30 am #50067
    Chiranjit
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    After break up of my past relationship long time back, I have recently proposed a girl and told her about my feelings.

    She never say yes or no about my proposal and silence about the matter.But we chat and share our daily life together.I always express clearly my feelings and said several times how much i love her and care for her.

    But i never hear from her the same response.but still we text for long hours.many time she never respond.

    Now recently she has stopped texting me without any reason.I was tyring my end to know the reason but failed to understand.

    She respond after a day or sometimes ignore my message.

    What should i do?Do i ask her directly the reason.

    Please suggest.

    January 31, 2014 at 9:13 am #50082
    tamanna
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    Yes of course.., i think you should ask her directly about this thing and why she is behaving so differently…
    at least for the first and the last time… u should clearly ask her…

    January 31, 2014 at 9:32 am #50085
    Matt
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    Chiranjit,

    Consider that perhaps she doesn’t say those things back because she doesn’t want to. For what reason, be it fear of sharing or lack of feeling, is the question. Perhaps because you proudly exclaim how powerful your love is, you might not be giving her the space she needs to figure out where she is. Consider instead, just explore with her. Share your appreciation, sure, but not as “I love you, please love me back”, but “I really enjoyed the way you saw that, chose that path, said what you said.” These are the sun and rain that help whatever is blossoming on her side find the space it takes to figure out how she feels, and what she wants to do with those feelings.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    February 6, 2014 at 6:25 am #50428
    Anyone
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    She probably doesn’t want to proceed that’s why there are these switch on and switch off moments from her end. Switch on is when she needs just someone or needs to talk. Switch off is when she realizes she doesn’t want to proceed. This is what I understand being a woman. And from my personal experience I have learned; relation doesn’t goes well in the long run and then there is lot of feeling of hurt,vengeance, etc. It’s better to be very clear on such decisions.

    Stay blessed!

    Lots of positivity to you!

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