Hello,

The guy that I am currently dating, Jake, tells me that he feels that I have never truely opened up or fully been myself around him. The truth is that in some ways, he may be right. Before dating Jake, I dated a guy named Tyler. Tyler and I had a really intense connection. I felt truly free to be myself with him, we could talk about anything. Before we went to bed, we would spend an hour just talking and laughing with each other, sharing our imaginations. Tyler broke up with me unexpectedly. He claimed that he loved me, but he moved across the country, onlu letting me know a week beforehand. Needless to say, I was completely crushed. I began spiraling downward. It got to the point where I felt completely detached to the people around me. When I met Jake, I was not looking for a relationship, but he was such a great guy and I could not let him go. I want to open up and feel a true connection with Jake, but I honestly don’t know how to at this point.