Dear Cath:

No need to apologize to me for not getting back to me earlier. Whenever you post to me, that will be fine! You choose the people you spend time with and you choose when to post here.

Choose, you don’t have to spend (any) time with your mother or father or any family member. You don’t have to. You choose.

anita

Dear cath:

Thank you for your update, i appreciate it as I was wondering how you are doing.

Moving to another country sounds oh, so very good for you, away from everyone in your life who … shouldn’t be in your life. I just imagined myself in your place, sensing freedom in the air…!

Till your next post, take care!

anita

Dear cath:

And I hope you get it soon, freedom!

anita

Dear cath:

To see the truth as it is – that is rare. It is a process for me to peel off layers of distortions and use a “beginner’s mind” to see the truth underneath all the distortions, false beliefs (delusions), what you call lies. Distorted views of reality is the norm, common, widespread, the majority. Realistic view is the exception. It is mind boggling to realize that my basic beliefs were lies.

Evaluate what you hear, what you believed so far and identify the truth. Only do it in small doses because it is overwhelming. Find our a bit of truth and let the dust settle on that, rest, relax into it and see more of what is true.

anita

Dear cath:

If there was a way to do away with sadness and anxiety, who wouldn’t do away with feeling badly. How many people turn to drugs, legal, prescribed, illegal for that purpose…(no answer required, lots, millions and millions and more millions). How many people sit in casinos, distracting themselves with those slot machines all night long (24 hour night time in the casino). My goodness, cath, who is not after feeling good?

This is the way it is. For you, for me, for all humans, we have no choice but to spend more time than we wish being sad and anxious. Am I being encouraging right now, I wonder. I suppose I am back to the having to endure these feelings and not be scared of them. Relax into what you feel. Don’t try to change it… and it will change by itself. The more you let it be, the faster it will change.

To really accept what you feel, to no longer expect to feel anything else. When you feel good, enjoy it and don’t expect it to be eternal. When you feel badly, feel badly, but don’t make it worse by resisting it. And it will not be eternal.

Next week, what day? Post anytime until, during and after that day.

anita

Dear cath:

I didn’t know if I was comforting. I am glad I was. Thursday. Post anytime.

anita