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  • July 21, 2014 at 10:16 am #61401
    uju
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    I m usually not the type who does online dating, but I met someone online by chance. we started chatting, and we became really good friends. He lives in another country, about 4000 miles away from me. Our friendship became really serious like we chat everyday, video chat always, send pictures and updates about our daily activities etc. He told me he was single. so I assumed he wanted a relationship though he didn’t mention it but I assumed so, since we had some kind of connection. I became sort of attached to him, and some how I knew he was too, because he told me he liked me alot. He planned to come and visit me in my country soon .We went on for some months and suddenly he started being distant. He stop video calling me, and he started taking awhile to respond to my messages. This got to a point were he even wouldn’t reply my messages. I got worried, and decided to ask him whatsup, but I got no response. I m really confused. I have been trying to forget it all, but its really hard for me. should I just move on??

    July 21, 2014 at 11:21 am #61414
    Aquamarina
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    Hi Uju,

    I had something similar occur to me a few years ago with the online dating thing, I had decided to take matters into my own hands and go visit this person because I had been to his home and everything. When I arrived another woman opened the door….

    I’m not saying that all online dating experiences will end negatively but I think you should just move on. If he likes you as much as he says he does he wouldnt be ignoring you right? Plus, for some reason people seem to be living vicariously in terms of any online “realtionships” or “emotions” its not to say that your feelings or his werent real…people just tend not to see how much a person can come to like the one on the other side of the screen…the weight of it doesnt register.

    You’d be doing yourself a favour by not messaging him or emailing him anymore. I know how hard that must be but You are preventing yourself from opportunities that are better for you. If when you stop trying to reach him he messages you, kindly ask for an explanation and consider whether or not he is worth your time. Remember, your happiness and how true you are to yourself are all that really matters.

    Cheers. 🙂

    July 21, 2014 at 12:03 pm #61416
    uju
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    Thanks MaRia.
    Its really a vulnerable place for me to be in, considering the fact that I never really was interested in online dating, and seeing it turn out this way. Lately, even on weekends and holidays when I did expect him to be available but he doesn’t come through. I agree with you on stopping the messaging and e. mailing because continuing with all that isn’t attractive, and may come out as being needy. I m not that type who would chase after someone.

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