So I am reaching out because I honestly need a non-bias judgement on my situation. For the sake of the story and to help avoid confusion I will call my ex boyfriend Tom, and my current boyfriend Harry. So here’s the back story for 5 years I was with Tom, I have known him my whole life ,though we’ve never been extremely close, our paths constantly intertwined. We were in the same preschool the same churches, the same schools, we both went ice skating at the same rink every week. When I was 16 my friend dare me to kiss Tom at the rink and I did the next day i saw him at school and convinced him that He had kissed my twin sister, which he believed. Well after leaving high school and not seeing him for 3 years later our paths intertwined again at this same Ice skating rink. We both had been stood up by our dates and so we ended up chatting and exchanging numbers. Well from that day forward we were inseparable, our chemistry was great he was like this giant piece of myself that I was missing. about a month into the relationship I got pregnant though we didn’t know this until I was 3 months along.  We were both young only 20, and he really freaked out we though about abortion but it goes against my beliefs so I told him he can leave and I will raise the child my self. He did leave for a day or two but came back and decided to keep our child. My hormone changes and financial situation caused a lot of stress during the pregnancy. After our daughter was born, he was the main provider for us as I stayed home with the daughter. Once I started working again we decided to move into our own place as we were staying with my parents at the time. Things became more strained since money was so tight after we moved out of my parents. Things we never terrible, we had our normal issues most of which are financial issue. but about a year ago things started taking a turn for the worst. I don’t know if it was my anxiety and depression playing with my mind, but I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. I felt constantly criticized and under pressure to be perfect. I began to dread going home since i felt like we were going to get into another fight, or that i would end up upset and in tears again. We were fighting almost every other day, he was constantly in a bad mood that i could do nothing to change. i kept trying to fix things but they would always go back to bad with in a week. He knew things were bad and that i was hurting. He doesn’t want to treat me like that way, but he cant control it. We tried to talk about it to figure out what caused it. I felt like my anxiety was going to engulf me at any minute, and it was only when I was around Tom that I felt this way. When I was with my friends I felt free and alive again, when I got home I felt repressed and upset. After a big blow out I left and decided not to go back. It’s been 4 months since then. When i left I decided to start dating again immediately just to see what was out the. About 3 month after me and Tom separated I meet Harry online, we started talking and we had a lot in common. He swept me off my feet, he treated me so differently than tom, He was so caring and compassionate. He is super sincere and honest. I decided to chance a relationship with him despite how recent my break up was because it felt right at the time. Now I feel like I was swept away with everything and didn’t give it the proper thought I needed too.

So my current issue is this. Tom really wants to fix things were talking more openly and honestly than we have in years. But at the same time I have begun this relationship with Harry which shows so much promise and would be less complicated. I’m not sure what to do. I honestly miss Tom so much but at the same time Harry makes me smiles and is willing to give me the world. When I ask my friends its split half want me to give Tom another chance whereas the other half want me to stay with Harry. Any advice would be much appreciated.