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  • This topic has 16 replies, 6 voices, and was last updated 7 years ago by Lea.
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    Anonymous
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    Dear wildoceanflower:

    You wrote: “i find human behaviour repulsive and thus, interesting like a scientist dissecting an ant”-

    but you are human too. You are not a species of a different type. Your behavior is human too.

    If you were a scientist dissecting an ant, and the ant stands for all the people who mistreat you, then I think you are not doing a good job dissecting. A scientist keeps an open mind about the result of his dissection and experiments otherwise. He or she may have a hypothesis, an educated guess as to the results, but to be a competent scientist, one has to be open to the hypothesis being wrong.

    You are not open to such a possibility. You state the results before the dissection, you already believe you know what is in that ant.

    Part of what you believe is true, I am sure. Some people are nosy and rude. But not all people and not all the time. And if you do draw attention by your looks only, there must be a reason other than what you describe as normal look or being good looking. A very out of the ordinary dress could draw such attention as you describe, a glittery, shiny very short red dress and high heels in a supermarket will draw attention, for example.

    anita

    #176075
    Lea
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    Wow, what a journey wildoceanflower, your story really touched me as I have went through my own heartbreak these past few years. I am still healing, healing more and more each day, it looks like you’ve been doing your best to cope with the situation as best as  possible. Now the next step is entirely for you: be free. Harder said then done but do something that will jolt you out of this routine. I can feel your pain, and I believe that you can work toward healing. I also discovered I’m  my own worse enemy, may I recommend a book, it’s called “Stop Saying You’re Fine” by Mel Robbins. The books calls for action and I think you may enjoy it and resonate with it. You may not have the kids or the husband you desire at the moment, but please don’t think it is too late, my advice is to go completely No contact with the ex and keep on the path of self discovery. Make a list of something you would like to achieve, my wildest one so far is to hike a mountain. Your still here and for a reason remember that.

    Lea

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