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  • January 8, 2016 at 4:45 pm #91829
    jim
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    I just need to vent! have recently wrote a topic on here about a painful break up with this I met. I thought with time things would get easier! But, I seems to be getting worse! I find myself wanted to call her or text her! just wondering if someone out there is going through the same and HOW are you dealing with it and through it? Miss her so much!!

    January 8, 2016 at 6:19 pm #91831
    Anonymous
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    I’m with you brother. I didn’t even LIKE her for much of the relationship, and I am floored by how hard it has been. I really did not expect it.

    Part of it is that she moved on to someone else immediately. In fact, while I don’t think they were having a physical affair, they were having an emotional one, and that other person probably encouraged her to break up. Even though it was a mutual break up, I feel resentful that possibly someone else, who was a FRIEND, has had a hand in something they should have stepped back from.

    It’s been a month, and today, I sobbed. I want to contact her, ask her why she couldn’t wait, that I feel so dishonored. I am so glad that i didn’t.

    January 8, 2016 at 7:00 pm #91837
    Anonymous
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    Dear jim:

    If you called her, what would you say? You can say it here, all of it, all that you would want to say to her.

    Dear quietartist:

    We get attached to people, pets, places, routines… even if we don’t like them. And then it is the hurt and anger of betrayal by a friend to top the attachment that makes things worse.

    Sorry for your pain.
    anita

    January 8, 2016 at 11:24 pm #91845
    jim
    Participant

    yeah bro, it sucks! I wouldn’t wish this on anyone! I don’t know how I ever hot so attached soooo quick! I guess I should have seen the signs the she was over her ex husband. But, when your involved like that, you don’t see it! matter of fact! when I told my whole story on here, this lady pointed out to me the it seems like she was just using me to deal with the lost of her husband! But, I fell in love with her and didn’t see it coming! NOW, its just dealing and feeling with the pain! Hope things get better for ya! Try to stay busy with your time to keep her off your mind! unfortunately, there is no easy way out! Hang in there!

    January 8, 2016 at 11:40 pm #91847
    jim
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    Hi Anita, I don’t know what I would say if I called her? maybe, just to see how she feels? maybe, to hear? Her telling me just move on it wouldn’t work? I don’t know! but hearing, move on it wouldn’t work and she’s not interested in taking it any further. could bring me to reality INSTEAD of fantasy! I don’t know? YOU! are the one that pointed out to me! That, it sounds like she wasn’t even of her husband yet! a light came on in my head when you pointed that out! BUT, I tthink was REALLY prevents me from calling her is, she was so cold when we broke up! almost like I didn’t mean much to her and it was no big deal this relationship coming to an end! I guess? it’s the rejection helps me from calling her?

    January 9, 2016 at 8:47 am #91878
    Anonymous
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    Dear jim:

    You come across to me as a very authentic person in your posts: emotional, spontaneous, not editing yourself much…typing it as it is, and I like what I see (in your posts) very much. Your emotions are raw and they “scream” out of the computer screen… which makes you very real to me, honest. In my mind, this makes you very desirable to a woman who would be interested in the real thing, real emotions, honesty…

    Your pain of rejection, her being cold to you, the pain of lack of mutuality of attachment is strong in you. I see it. Please keep posting for as long as you need to, for as long as it is helpful to you…

    anita

    January 10, 2016 at 7:23 am #91958
    jim
    Participant

    yes anita, I guess it can’t hurt to vent here! get out me! and, whatever it takes to get through this painful break up!

    January 10, 2016 at 7:25 am #91959
    jim
    Participant

    Thank You anita!

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