Hi everyone,

I’ve been feeling a mixture of anger and guilt. My brother and his family cause a lot of tension for me and my siblings. He’s very stingy and known to take advantage at the expense of others. For that reason some of us do not communicate with him.

Lately he has been staying at our home and it has been causing arguments between me and my daughter… she says he treats her as an errand girl and does not respect the home (takes things without asking, leaving lights on, lowering the AC too low). When we would visit his home he would not let us do such things. Maybe it’s nothing some communication can’t fix, but at the same time – I really feel the need for some space.

I’m feeling a desire to push him away, especially since it’s been causing my family stress. But at the same time, he’s family. Am I just being naive? Are my siblings being smart by not allowing him to take advantage of them? There must be a better way for everyone to benefit in this situation.

Thank you