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  • August 10, 2014 at 3:20 am #62965
    rumi
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    Hello. I am new here. I am in a very ridiculous situation that I would need advice.

    I am 25 and I met a guy 1 year ago. He was still with his girlfriend. I know it’s not right to start a relationship with the guy. But given the fact that he and his gf are at the end of their relationship, we moved on. The girl made a big mistake by seeing other person and so the guy find it unforgiving, hence their relationship has been at trough.

    Lately, they are at the verge of breakup and the girl tries to work it out. The guy says to me he is determined to leave. However, he offers probation to the girl. I really dont know what I should do. I found it cruel to the girl. At the same time, I look forward to the day when we can really be together. Should I just leave the guy? should I wait for him?

    I thought of leaving him for the past one year for endless times. Because I think that if he truly loves me, he would just end the relationship and come for me. However, I persisted because I enjoy the feeling of being loved by him, and at the same time, i believe that true love needs challenge, and endurance of a hard situation.

    But now, I am totally confused. Please help.

    August 10, 2014 at 3:41 am #62968
    Bernadette
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    Hello Rumi
    The fact that he is willing to give his gf probation after she went with someone else says enough, he is still in love with his girlfriend and is willing to work thru their relationship, I mean if he wanted to leave and be solely with you he would have done so…I would seriously think of walking away from this situation as he could probably be hanging around with you to forget some of the issues going on in his relationship. One year is a long time for someone to be making their mind as to what they want.. If this guy truly cared about you he would have Left his girlfriend by now.

    You deserve a lot better, and finally what he is doing now, dating you and his girlfriend at the same time, don’t you think he will do the same to you in the future if you are in a relationship with him?

    Regards

    Kadija

    August 10, 2014 at 7:06 am #62973
    Alpal
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    Hello Rumi
    Sorry you are in such a place , but to give you my honest opinion , the beginning of your relationship just isnt right, he should be honest with his girlfriend and not stay with her and love someone else. In my country there is a saying that whoever cheats FOR you will cheat on you for someone else, so in my opinion I think you should just let it go because it is kind of cruel for the other girl and if he truly loved you he would have left the girl for you long ago , he seems as if he is keeping you on the side but deep down he still really loves her! Hope you make the right decision for yourself
    Alpal

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