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October 26, 2014 at 8:41 am #66792
@alok i have gotten upset before and been through stuff but this time it feels like its not going away and that its a cloud hanging on to meOctober 26, 2014 at 8:39 am #66791
@inky what do u suggest i do? Resting tends to make me feel more upset just sitting , do u think i should take some vitamins and see if it helpsOctober 26, 2014 at 8:36 am #66789
Exactly what do u mean with “try resting with it” it is sitting on my chest i am so desprate now to get rid of it. The feeling was so bad and scary that i am freaking out about it and it scares meOctober 18, 2014 at 7:55 am #66415
Hey there @jasmine-3
Thank you for your advice, I have already sat and thought deeply about if something bad does happen and life doesnt work out the way I want it to that I do have the diploma which in my country will get me a well paying job, not as good as those who have finished their bachelors but good enough to support myself and to get things I want but I live in a country where most of the people are very wealthy, and will look down on you if you dont have a phd or a very fancy job.When it comes to the convincing i really just care about my father and him being ok with me and not being disapointed or feel that I hurt him. Also as I mentioned school and being around people who just want to gossip and be negative all the time bothers me, and makes me literally deppressed . Do you know any online colleges or something similar ? Well anyways thanks 🙂
AlpalOctober 17, 2014 at 4:16 am #66375
Hey there S
It feels really good to know that there are still people out there that believe and feel the same way i do, i too dread school and being around so many negative people , my happy place is in my little nest with those I love. My family and friends also say i am wasting myself but I dont agree at all because my husband and home come first and I want to be able to give it my all , if i were to work I know I wouldnt be able to do that . Also my inspiration are the strong women a long time ago who made their homes a heaven . As long as you give your husband and home your all you are not wasting yourself at all you are doing what you love. This is our dream and we should pursue it even though its not cool or popular anymore. Hopefully they will just leave us alone. And let us be happy:)
Do let me know what happens with you !
AlpalOctober 14, 2014 at 1:40 pm #66280
Hey @inky 🙂
I’m so glad that there are still people out there that think like I do 🙂 I do have a diploma which to me is at least something and if worse comes to worse I can still go back and study and finish it , but I “might” go back someday , but I really really dread it ! and you are right I will definitely try my hardest to make my home a home to be proud of 🙂 Thanks 🙂August 31, 2014 at 5:54 am #64136
Its really hard to answer your question , because I for one believe deeply in an afterlife and in God , but I think you shouldn’t settle for a definite answer and I would keep researching and looking for the right path:) When it comes to loosing those you love, enjoy every second you have with them now and make the most of it:)August 28, 2014 at 4:05 pm #64064
Hello there lil.lily
Well to be honest , I have always lived by forgiving and not forgetting I believe though you should forgive for your own sake and move on you should not forget what they have done and let them do it to you again. But my question is , is that if he has hurt you so much why do you still talk to him? I would advise you to stay away from people who try to hurt you and not really think about them and their lives. You can’t decide how karma gets to them and when, and you can’t decide how they live their lives, but usually people who don’t care about hurting others tend to focus only on themselves and thats why he’s “happy” which is probably something you should start doing (focusing on yourself, not hurting others) The best thing to do is let him go completely don’t worry about what he’s doing or how his life is going you don’t need that kind of negativity around you, just focus on making your life the BEST it can be , after all life is what you make of it.
PS: Just because he is going to Hawaii doesn’t mean that he’ll have a great life , you never know whats really going on because people only share what they want to with you 🙂
AlpalAugust 26, 2014 at 4:23 am #63950
I know whats it like to feel like you want to give up on something you are doing , but you need to remember that this something that you are doing is so you can become the best version of yourself and be the best kind of you there is. Every time you feel like giving up and not doing something , tell yourself that if you dont start now , then you will never start. Remember that you are doing this so you can become a beautiful , strong confident you! Which is something we all need to be . Try to listen to music that motivates you and keeps you excited and going, keep track of your accomplishments and the days you DO do something good for yourself dont let those days go to waste and appreciate yourself everyday you do do something. You could also reward yourself every time you exercise everyday for a week , or for so many days continuously. Also like Inky said you could pay for it and remind yourself that you HAVE to go because you did pay for it! Always keep an image of yourself and what you WOULD be like if you did exercise daily , remember everyday and every action counts!
Good luckAugust 14, 2014 at 2:19 pm #63381
4-Sensitive (live every emotion to its fullest 🙂 )
5-A good Leader!
Thank you for this:)August 10, 2014 at 7:06 am #62973
Sorry you are in such a place , but to give you my honest opinion , the beginning of your relationship just isnt right, he should be honest with his girlfriend and not stay with her and love someone else. In my country there is a saying that whoever cheats FOR you will cheat on you for someone else, so in my opinion I think you should just let it go because it is kind of cruel for the other girl and if he truly loved you he would have left the girl for you long ago , he seems as if he is keeping you on the side but deep down he still really loves her! Hope you make the right decision for yourself
AlpalAugust 6, 2014 at 12:36 am #62739
Hey heather !
Yeah really agree with letting her go and deciding that she has her own life and she needs to grow herself and you both need to do your own thing! That’s exactly what I am going to try to do , slowly let her go not sure if Im going to let her go completely or just let the friendship go, either way I’m not going to stick around for it anymoreAugust 6, 2014 at 12:34 am #62738
Hey there Jasmine 🙂
At my core level I honestly don’t understand why it bothers me that we are not friends although I know that we shouldn’t really be friends anymore and I know we have grown apart. Yeah I do agree with most of them because I was looking for opinions and I am the type of person who will listen in to everyone’s insight and really think about it deeply, plus mostly everyone is saying to just let her go which I guess is probably the best thing to do. As for how I am going to move forward I am not so sure where I should start with letting her go and if I should really erase her number and erase her completely out of my life or just stop trying to regain the friendship and we can just stay as acquaintances. As for the “a lot of people” for some reason I must have had a “brain fart” because when you said there was contradictions I felt I might not have explained myself well enough and when I went back and read my first post I realized that I said a lot of people and I just specifically meant one friend, at first I think I was going to write about more than one but as I was writing I started thinking of it and the other people I knew didn’t really change that much and have been the greatest people but I might have been a little bit extra sensitive as I have been blessed with a lot of sensitivity :), and I guess I forgot to go back and edit that part out once I realized it was all really just about one person . Sorry for the brain fart 🙂
AlpalAugust 5, 2014 at 12:34 pm #62710
Sorry you had to go through it too , it is kind of tough to let people you thought you were close to go but sometimes you just have to put yourself first dont you? Yeah letting go definitely is the hardest thing to do I personally dont know where to start with it I guess take it slow. And I totally agree with the “if she decides she misses me and wants me in her life we will see where I am at that time if not I am better off” which is exactly how I am starting to feel about this entire situation ! Hope everything works out for you dear !
ThanksAugust 5, 2014 at 12:27 pm #62709
Hello will !
Yeah I guess I did, I’ll start to try to let it go 🙂