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  • #66780
    Alpal
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    Hello everyone please help …
    Lately i have been through a flu and bad asthma attack , after that i had the stomach flu and got really sick but nothing is as bad as this horrible feeling i’ve been feeling lately . All of the sudden after recovering i have been through deppresion and get out and in it all the time , every once in awhile it will come and hang tight to me and make me feel hopeless and then i.ll be feeling good again . Everytime i get better i feel so scared of this feeling that i start to feel it again like a circle … I dont want to say its deppression because then i fear i am clincly deppressed and need pills my mom suggests its from the flu and loosing energy.
    Its a horrible feeling in my soul …. Please help

    #66781
    Matt
    Participant

    Alpal,

    It very normal and usual to have odd feelings after we get sick. Remember how Buddha taught of impermanence, how things are always changing, never the same. The feelings of tightness and dread will dissipate with time, it sounds to me like your mind and body are out of synch a little… mistrust in each other, both having been through quite a journey.

    Next time some dread arises, instead of fearing the fear and trying to run away from it, try resting with it. Be courageous and just breathe, with attention on the feeling in the here and now. Just beneath the racing quality of the fear is a tenderness, Alpal’s gentle desires to be happy, healthy and free. With the mind racing toward “it’ll always be like this!”, that tenderness is perhaps overlooked. Consider it more like how the outside of a pineapple might stop a being from getting closer to it. But, if the outside surface is worked with skillfully, we quickly see that its skin is actually quite thin. The fear perhaps is the same, a little bit of leftover skin around your desire.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    #66782
    Inky
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    Yes, and also consider taking it easy for a while. After an illness some people like to jump right back in to the scene. But sometimes the body makes itself ill ~ or depressed ~ so we can rest, reflect, reevaluate our lives ~ on all levels. I bet there is something in your life that your Soul really, really wants to change or be done with ~ even if you don’t see it. So take a few days off ~ or cut back as much as you’re able ~ reenter slowly and see what happens.

    #66784
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Alpal , Suffering And Fear of failure or fear of life or whatever is a common unavoidable thing in life . If You r sick , You will have depressing thoughts Of Specific particular memories or thigs continuously for a LONG Time till Your sickness atleast decreases . If You Are not sick and feeling normal , Then You will be depressed about relationships or grades or whatever . The Point is suffering Is in some way inevitable . But if You are sick or body is weak , physical problems will increase mental depression Which will increase the stress You already have . Thats whats happening to you .

    Now about Your physical sickness , there is no advice I can give Nor can You do much . Only a doctor and medicines can help You .

    But regarding Your depression , my best advice would be To try something You havent tried in a long long time . Like for example , suppose You Havent played Basketball Or Guitar For 6 or 7 months . Well , play now . Just do something Which is relatively new I.e. you know how to do it but havent done it for a long time .

    The Reason why this Procedure or doing this method MIGHT Work Is A Complex reason BuT Rest Assured Your brain ‘s repetitive patterns will Change .

    Best of luck .

    #66789
    Alpal
    Participant

    Hello @matt
    Exactly what do u mean with “try resting with it” it is sitting on my chest i am so desprate now to get rid of it. The feeling was so bad and scary that i am freaking out about it and it scares me

    #66791
    Alpal
    Participant

    @inky what do u suggest i do? Resting tends to make me feel more upset just sitting , do u think i should take some vitamins and see if it helps

    #66792
    Alpal
    Participant

    @alok i have gotten upset before and been through stuff but this time it feels like its not going away and that its a cloud hanging on to me

    #66793
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Thats why I Am Saying Alpal — People will say “Try to fight Your emotions ” . But the more You try to fight Your brain , The more we think about it And The more we suffer . I Want to suggest something … … Dont be involved in activities That last just a short time because After the activity is over , You will fall back into thinking depressing things . The best best way To do is You Have to go someplace or with someone Where You spend a lot of time doing activity …. For example why not go to your relatives place And Be There for a 2 weeks or a month And always Talk to them And To children ….. Thus by the time You Come back , You will Understand You Havent been able to think about any depressing thoughts for a long time Because of all the activity you have been doing And Your mood will already Have changed . And if You dont feel like talking to anyone because of Your depression , You might just find for yourself A Good social circle with Only caring friends .

    ” The One thing that should be banned if possible is loneliness “.

    #66797
    Matt
    Participant

    Alpal,

    For resting with it, consider that the weight on your chest is your own light, surrounded by a film of goop. Rather than running, we can breathe, let the past go (see the present as it is), and the goop goes away.

    From another direction, imagine a woman getting a blister on her hand. She looks at the blister, sees pain and agitation, and turns away from it, wrapping it in bandages, her hand becoming a source of pain. As the blister heals, she still feels the fear that her hand will hurt her, and so she keeps it wrapped up in bandages long after the wound has healed. To let the fear go, “resting with it” is looking at the hand, seeing what’s really there, and accepting it, unwrapping the bandages and flexing it a little.

    Perhaps a cough, some weakness to be tended (as inky kindly suggested), but you’re feeling better, and that’s great! The heavy feeling is perhaps like a shiver from a few chilly moments behind you. Shake it off, friend, its passed! Today’s the day, so what do you wish to do next?

    With warmth,
    Matt

    #67017
    Siddharth
    Participant

    Hey Yeah,,. Nice post buddies.

    Nice to see this thread here 🙂

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