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February 21, 2017 at 3:11 pm #128747Callum LWParticipant
Hello.
This is all very new to me and I’m looking for answers if that’s ok with the community.
First of all, sorry if this has been written in the wrong place – I can move it to another Forum area if need be, so I apologise in advance.
I am a 23 year old homosexual man living in the South of England, UK. My mother is Irish Catholic and my father is English Atheist. I respect my parents both very much and they have accepted me for who I am. I’m still trying to figure out who I am and I’m sure I am not alone in that endeavour either.
I have read about Buddhism and the Dharma and it sounds very much like what I would want to pursue in search of happiness and wellbeing. I just need a bit more education on it and I hope in this forum setting I can get those answers I desperately desire.
My big and most major concern is the “Abstaining from intoxicants”. I have never smoked or taken drugs, so that is fine for me. However I have drunk alcohol before. I don’t drink much, I am not an alcoholic or big fan of alcohol and since turning 18 I’ve never been a fan of getting too passed the point of not being able to think for myself. Would this be an issue going forward for me? Like I said it’s not much and it’s really only for special occasions.
What other intoxicants does this allude to?
I would be really appreciative if somebody could help me with these questions.
Thank you so much, namaste! 🙂
Callum.February 21, 2017 at 7:50 pm #128789yongsuaParticipantWell, I am great to hear that you are into Buddhism. I am actually not a real Buddhisht but I have studied and learned about Buddhism. It is something that I would love to embrace at my retirement age (btw I’m still 21 years old). I was fortunate enough to be born as a Chinese in Malaysia, so I have no problem accessing the Buddhism materials from China which is currently the central of the Buddhism as most of the translated suttras or mantras are available at there.
Now you have to understand that the journey of attaining the Enlightenment is a process and is progressive. It may take up to thousands, millions or billions of reincarnations to achieve Enlightenment eventually. As for now, if you really want to embrace Buddhism, you may need to understand the basic concepts or principles from Buddhism about the Truths of the Universe. There are two classes of Truth, one is natural Truth, another one is supernatural Truth. That’s how we have Hinayana and Mahayana for both Truths respectively. I would suggest that you should have deep understanding on theories of Hinayana before you proceed to Mahanyana. It is because Hinayana consists of theories and Truths that can be universally understood and accepted by every living being in this universe including Science. As for Mahayana, I would not elaborate it here to avoid disputes and misunderstandings as it is a supernatural Truth that cannot be explained or understood by using words due to its formlessness (non-physical or intangible existence). This may sound mysterious to you, but it not mysterious and unfamiliar at all actually. It is because there has been a Buddha that stays inside everyone of us to be the Awakened One. It is just a matter of time (countless reincarnations) and I would suggest you to read Lotus Suttra for this.
As for the intoxication case, I have no idea what you mean actually. However, you don’t have to quit alcohol abruptly as we need some time to gradually turn into perfect sobriety like a monk. Of course, it is the best if you can quit it completely as early or soon as possible. There are other intoxicants, not really intoxicants, but foods that you should also avoid such as onions and garlics. It is because foods such as onions and garlics or any other foods that have such similarities, will induce sexual arousal if eating them raw and anger or annoyance if eating them cooked. That’s the Buddhism theory, this might not be true for us, but those are the foods that must be avoided if you are a true Buddhism practitioner or monk. I hope my answer would help. Thank You.
February 21, 2017 at 10:18 pm #128795greenshadeParticipantHey cal93:
I do not have much experience with buddhism. I live in an orthodox religious community however. While I am no longer practicing, I was devout during around ten years ago. One of the reasons I left was I gave too much importance to rules of do’s and don’t’s – often wandering into the territory of self judgement and self hatred when I strayed from the set rules. If you were to decide on embracing buddhism as a religion my advice would be to not become overly attached to do’s and don’ts, such as avoid intoxicants. Embrace imperfection within your religious practice. It is a lot more sustainable :).
Best,
mFebruary 22, 2017 at 5:33 am #128811Callum LWParticipantHello yongsua, greenshade.
Yongsua – Thank you for your kind words – I understand what you are saying :-] Thank you also for the recommendations to read.
Greenshade – I understand from what you say that Buddhism doesn’t force repent on those that do or do not, unless the actions of don’t are severe? Also to focus on the good that I can do with Buddhism and to share those values around the people I love and care about. To not lie, to help others, to try to achieve enlightenment by being the best person I can be for others, not just me.
This is the reason I am attracted to Buddhism and it’s teachings, they are very outward thinking.
Thank you,
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