Leah,

What I saw is someone who had three victories in a fight, while her opponent only had one. Anyone can punch and kick another, but it is something quite different and far more remarkable to stand back up. Its in the standing, not the winning, that we find our courage and tenacity. Well done!

With warmth,
Matt

Anthony Robbins talks about something called “State Management” .. remembering everything about a time when you were successful.. when you were at your very best…
He has helped many athletes and performers

https://www.youtube.com/results?q=anthony+robbins+state+management

all three victories Matt mentioned .. you can remember something in you in between each bell that motivated you into the next one

when you remember these you can bring them all together at once and and then you will have a ton of power

I used to hate all fighting sports until I saw the humility and camaraderie they showed each other after the fights..

Bloodiest fight of the night and after the battle they are all hugs and cheering each other on.. something special in that… for certain..

Congrats on finding what helps you

Hi Leah,

First. You should be commended. It is one of the toughest and bravest things to even attempt what you’re doing. I agree with what Matt said. I have been training in martial arts since I was 4 years old. I have seen a lot of things. My opinion is that maybe your sparring partner is going too hard on you. Her skills may be to advanced for you at the moment. You should ask for a partner who is about your skill level or a little better. Sparring someone too advanced will kill your confidence. It would be like playing tennis against Venus Williams. You won’t learn anything and end up feeling frustrated. Take your time and go slowly.

Hi Leah,

Damn, Muay Thai, that’s serious stuff. I practiced martial arts for 6 years on and off and spent some time training in BJJ and can tell you, even in a friendly sparring match where I was not getting beat up, just being stuck under someone can feel suffocating and scary.

I would never be cool with getting kicking in the shins or elsewhere with mal intent. You definitely managed something I would never be comfortable doing. I tend to think that in a real match you will do great because you tackle real fear in the sparring match. Many people go into sparring matches with no fear and when you have that your real matches may be different. But if you spar with fear and perform ok, then in a regular match I think you will do as good or better.

Go kick some ass.

hey,

you got all the tools already to get the job done, all the advice is awesome, and will help build up your self-belief more, its all practice makes perfect, mind, body and soul.

im still working on this and i boxed semi-pro over four years ago, as ive been training again this year.

reading these replies, and your story, similar to experiences of my past.

getting beat bad by a more skillful opponent, means a fighter learns only to be beat.

however, you took it, and kept going.

not many do!

get yourself a fight, dive into it, let the world, family, friends, know you are doing it, i guarantee you will do it, and seriously enjoy it too 🙂

and you may also find some people around you, who you may secretly thought were tougher, are not a touch on you, as them people are not getting into a ring, but you are.

all the best.