Hi All,

I’ve been in a 10 year relationship that I recently ended about 7 months ago. Background…I had 3 small kids when I met him and didn’t have a lot of time nor did I want to commit a lot of time to a relationship he was divorced not freshly but fairly new and worked a lot, so our relationship worked and I thought it would eventually lead to marriage one day. Well once my kids left the nest I had more time and a desire for more. I want more of his time but he’s time was still limited. My circumstances has changed but he still works a lot. An important piece of info is we live about a 1.5 hour away from each other so we saw each other about 3 may 4 days a week.

Well about 7 months ago I got tired of being in what I felt like was a part time relationship so I ended it. So sad and devastated, we had no contact for about 3 months and than we started talking again I initiated it (a weak moment). Went out a few times and talked, he said he definitely want a relationship with me and want to give me the time commitment I need but he wasn’t were he wanted to be and needed to get things right so that he could be financially and emotionally happier. I don’t feel like he’s feeding me a line or having other women but I just think he’s having a mini mid life crises, he’s 54 and I’m 50.

I’m torn because I still want him but I kind of want to let go so that I can move on. We recently we out for dinner and I believe he still loves me but he’s still not available to commit. I try no contact and as soon as I relax, he will text or call which draws me in again. I’ve not had sex with him since we broke up because he doesn’t have those privileges anymore. I’m holding out for all or nothing but my time and patience is getting thin.

Should I move on and date? I obviously still love him but I don’t want to be in a holding pattern forever either. Can people part and come back together a year or more and have a successful relationship?

Please I need some advice.

Thanks.