I am around a month or so out of a nearly two year relationship and on reflection I am looking back and wondering whether this was a toxic relationship.

I believe my former partner had issues with anxiety, she would get very stressed about work and other things and this would result in mood swings etc. I am not saying I was perfect but always tried to support her and reassure her during this but it often felt like whatever I said/did was wrong and I felt like I was walking on eggshells around her. When she was fine it was ok, but it could happen in an instant, almost like the flick of the switch and she would become angry. If we argued, she would often say stuff that she knew would upset me. After these outbursts, she would be very emotional and upset as saying that she is worried of losing me.

I never did because I cared for her and she was a nice, caring person without the stress and worry.

I moved in to her place and thought this might help the issue but it made it worst. We had a big fight after a few days and she said she can’t do this anymore as needs to sort herself out so i packed up and left. I was upset but on reflection i think it is for the best as I think I should have walked away previously but thought things would get better so didn’t. Since the split, i had an email saying i had been supportive and kind and didn’t deserve to be treated how I was and that she needs to sort herself out on her own. I acknowledge the mail but said it is best if we don’t speak anymore and have had no contact since.

From reading various bits, I am starting to think this was a toxic relationship? Or am I just trying to make myself feel better because I wasn’t the one that ended it?