Dear roro21:

I am sorry you had such a bad experience that night. That one night, as unfortunate as it was, does not mean that you will not “be able to be with someone special or to have something romantic or sexual ever again”-

what it does mean is that you need to pay attention so to prevent the circumstances that proved harmful to you that night: be careful where you go, where you choose to drink alcohol, if you do.

You asked “What can I o?” regarding a guy from school that messaged you that he is interested in having sex with you (that is what you meant, correct?)-

you can say “No”. If you are not interested in a casual sexual interaction with a man, say “No.” Say it once and stay true to your No.

I am thinking that you are not interested in casual sexual interactions with men because you wrote: “I was taking care of myself for a special moment”-

Just because you had one bad night, as unfortunate that it was, does not mean you are now destroyed, that you must abandon your values (having sex within a loving relationship, marriage perhaps), and that you are now available to any man who wants to have sex with you.

No, no, no. That night does not mean these things. I sure hope not.

Let me know of your thoughts and feelings, will you?

anita