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  • September 19, 2016 at 6:40 pm #115646
    j.coleman07
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    So my best friend is being bullied by this guy who used to be my bestest friend (but he was emotionally abusive so I dropped him like a hot potato). He’s a freshman and now he thinks he’s really cool and whatnot so he’s being super rude to my best friend. Should I tell him to quit it or just leave it alone? Because I’m super angry and I want to tell him off, but I’m not sure if thats the right thing to do. I guess the question is, what would you do?

    September 19, 2016 at 6:45 pm #115648
    Anonymous
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    Dear j.coleman07:

    I don’t know the ex friend who is a bully- are you afraid that if you tell him off he will harm you or bully you? If I was you I would consider possible consequences before acting, so awaiting your answer to the above.

    Also by telling him off (your words) what do you mean- what will you actually tell him? And what is your goal in telling him that?

    anita

    September 19, 2016 at 6:54 pm #115651
    j.coleman07
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    I guess I’m afraid that if I tell him off he’ll just smack talk me and my best friend to everyone on our running team. By telling him off, I mean that I’ll ask him to stop being so rude to my friends all the time, especially my best friend. My goal is for him to just stop. I dont know if standing up to him makes me kind or nosy.

    jenna

    September 19, 2016 at 7:20 pm #115654
    Anonymous
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    Dear jenna:

    If you intend to tell him to stop being so rude to your friend, then you are being courageous, assertive and a good friend and a good person. Your goal: to stop bullying is the right thing to do. When you tell him to stop being rude to her, tell him to never be rude to her. It is not good enough if he is only sometimes rude to her.

    Standing up to him is not nosy, as you suggested it might be. It is assertive and a good practice.

    anita

    September 20, 2016 at 4:54 am #115683
    Inky
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    Hi jenna,

    You two could put up a united front. And if you can get other people on the running team to chime in, that would work wonders. Bullies only bully because they can get away with it. If three different people hit him back verbally each three times harder than he bullies your friend, he will stop. Believe me! The social pressure will be too great.

    A good line to say to him (in front of everyone) is: “I have two questions. Why are you saying that? And why are YOU saying that?” *you turn to running team* “Am I right??” *Everyone laughs*

    *Someone else says* “They’re not laughing with you, they’re laughing at you!”

    He will smolder in embarrassment. Let him.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    September 28, 2016 at 11:17 pm #116648
    thelover
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    I think yo should just let it be, because that’s what I would do .

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