A little over 2 weeks ago, a boy that I was convinced was going to be my future broke my heart and dumped me without warning. We’d been together for just under a year (one week before our anniversary) and we spent all the time we could together. He said he was happy and that he loved me and cared about me more than he cared about anyone, but he had this intangible feeling of us “not being meant to be” and “not seeing a future with us as a couple.” He said this doubt caused him to pull out of the relationship and he said he had to end it for my sake because I deserved someone who gave me 100%.
I am so confused and really heartbroken. He said I was exactly what he wanted and needed as a partner but just didn’t feel “it”. We’re both young (22 and 23) and he says he’d like to be friends, but for now he needs his space which is killing me because I miss him like crazy.
Im scared of the future because he was my life. We talked about the possibility of living together and going on trips together and getting married in the past, so this totally blindsided me. What do I do? What do you think is going on in his head? Does he miss me? I really just need help making sense of all of this.
He gave you very little information on why he broke up with you. Reads to me that he planned on what to tell you (a very small portion and a very vague part of what was going on in his head for some time), and then told you what he did. He probably wanted to not hurt your feelings, so he kept some information to himself for that reason. Maybe he wanted to avoid conflict and difficulties for himself if he shared more than he did, so he didn’t.
Any clues as to the information he didn’t share with you recently? )He may have shared bits and pieces of it with you way before the breakup, things that bothered him about his life. his family/you)?
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