My boyfriend of two years recently moved out of our shared home to live with his mother. He moved most of his clothes and bed because she did not have one in her spare room but left most everything else. His two daughters live with us part of the time so he did take their clothes as well. He did this without consulting me first but it has been a turbulent month so he thought that was the best idea. I am very heartbroken because this is the second time he has left. The first time was for a couple days and now this time it feels like it will more than likely be longer based on the conversation, if we rekindle at all. We both still very much love one another but we can’t seem to find common ground lately.

Let me give some back story, we fell madly in love after we both were divorced and moved in very quickly after only 3 months. I know, recipe for disaster but you always think that your love will conquer all. Well fast forward a year and a half later and we are at each others throats. Some things have happened over the last couple years, we both lost our jobs, we started sharing custody of the girls, he decided he didnt like his career path, quit his job without another one and his ex-wife has been using the girls as a bargaining chip. He has recently told me that he feels like he is having a nervous break down. I tried to give him space but after about 3 weeks I felt neglected and emotional and was extremely needy, thats when this final break took place.

Here is the deal, I love him so much but I obviously need to love myself more. Is it appropriate for me to think it is over and move on or is it better for me to give him the space he needs and try to rekindle in a couple month’s time? My plan is to work on myself over this time frame but I am just not sure what my thought process should be, should I still hold on to the dream that we will eventually work out, which I think may be easier in the beginning but drag out the process. Or, do I cut my losses and say this it? Where do I go next?