Hi guys.

So I’ve had a problem before that now just blew up in my face. I’m not sure if anyone still remembers what was the problem before, but to make the story short:

Had an SO for 3,5years, but was confused and left to a different country for a job to “solve the issues in my head”. But of course I didnt have the guts to actually split up until I came back home. But we did split up eventually.

We talked about all the problems that we had and split up for a couple of months, up until he came to me and said: hey look, I took care of all the things you didn’t like and now we’re good to go again.

So I thought – maybe? Maybe everyone’s not right and when a person really works for it, it will work.

But the problem is – in the time we were apart, I realized how good felt to be free. I had much more time to concentrate on the things I love. I also managed to get involved in a very stupid fling with a guy I knew for years now. The SO knows everything – and still is willing to work for my affection.

We also work together on projects – which makes it even worse. One of the reasons we eventually split up for, was him always making me work with him. Though I’m perfectly fine without his projects and his being there in gerneral.

And still, even though we’re honest with eachother, and he knows that I’m not “all in” at the moment, he still wants to work for it. He still wants to win over my heart.

How do I tell a person like this, that it’s not worth it? That wanting to work for it, doesn’t change what happened before?

God damn love attachments.