louis , answering these qustions will solve the problem on the spot but at the unfortunate times the time to answer the qustions in mind is very small…reply me

I believe that we don’t make the choice initially to “hurt”, something done, said, or imagined has entered our being and the hurt or ache, whether mental or physical is the feeling/result that gives us life. If you don’t feel pain or hurt you aren’t alive, not that you have to be hurt or feel pain to be alive, I think everyone has felt hurt at sometime in their life. We are awakened to either make a change or stay where we are, if choices are to not make any changes, to make our life or situation better, I think then we are chosing. I believe that to tell someone they made the choice to hurt would add a little more to their plate than they need. I also believe it is easier to focus on the bad in society today, but there is a difference in what we think and how we hurt. Something in our past that has hurt us mentally and physically stays in our memory for a lifetime, somethings we will never forget, but we can chose where to put it. I don’t know if I am making sense here, but I think our minds are like computers, we can put more good things in that are better than the bad and sometimes those bad things get smaller in proportion in our thoughts of them. It is sometimes easier to stay where we are than to make great changes that in the end will benefit us much more.

Linda