Hi,

I have posted here several times & some may know I have a very difficult relationship with in laws including sisters in law. I have a sil’s birthday coming up (for those who have been responding to me, this is the other sil, not the one I have had major problems with). In the past I have been wishing her on birthdays & she does too. But, she normally will strike a further conversation & she normally has problem with boundaries (like she will give parenting advice, she gets nosey etc) . So, I normally try to wish her & hope she will end with a thank you & not ask anything further. But when she does I am left with dealing with her tactfully & thinking hard on what to say politely & discourage further talk. It makes me anxious for those days. I am really thinking of asking my husband to send birthday wishes to her from me as well & avoid one on one talk this time. But I am worried that will be considered ignoring / avoiding her? Also the other Sil , I don’t wish her at all ( and she doesn’t wish me) as she created major problems in our life before like family fights etc. So, would it give a feeling that the other sil is being treated same way? My Idea is to communicate through husband so she will stay in her boundaries & won’t bother with further communication. Is that rude or ok?

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