Posts tagged with “wisdom”
When You Stop Forcing, Life Flows
“You don’t have to force the flow—sometimes your only job is to soften and let go.” ~Unknown
For most of my life, I was obsessed with getting everything right. Planning. Controlling. Anticipating every outcome so I wouldn’t be caught off guard. I saw life as a kind of puzzle: if I just made the right moves in the right order, I’d get what I wanted. Peace, success, love.
But life doesn’t work that way.
The more I tried to control it, the more I felt out of alignment. I would burn out trying to make things happen. When something went …
Magic in the Ordinary: Finding Glimmers and Hope in Everyday Life
“If today gets difficult, remember the smell of coffee, the way sunlight bounces off a window, the sound of your favorite person’s laugh, the feeling when a song you love comes on, the color of the sky at dusk, and that we are here to take care of each other.” ~Nanea Hoffman
The beach breeze brushed against my skin. I felt the warmth from the sun, and I could hear the crashing waves and wild shrieking laughter of my toddlers.
I looked down at my perfect ten-month-old with his adorable chubby cheeks, snoring softly in my arms. My chest ached …
When You Outgrow Where You Live but Can’t Yet Leave
“Living in the moment is learning how to live between the big moments. It is learning how to make the most of the in-betweens and having the audacity to make those moments just as exciting.” ~Morgan Harper Nichols
There’s a peculiar grief that doesn’t often get named. It lives in the moments when you’re neither here nor there. When you’re packing in your mind but still waking up to the same kitchen.
When your soul says go, but your bank account or relationship or circumstance says not yet.
It’s the grief of the in-between, an ache I’ve been swimming in …
Beyond the Yips: How to Reclaim Your Creative Confidence
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
There’s a quiet moment before the spotlight hits when everything in your body wants to run.
Your hands tremble. Your voice tightens. Your breath shortens, even though the room is still. You love what you do—you’ve trained, practiced, prepared—but suddenly, it’s like someone else is in your body. Your skills vanish. Your confidence implodes.
That’s the yips.
And if you’re an artist, musician, writer, teacher—anyone whose work lives in public view—you’ve probably met them too.
The First Collapse
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A Transracial Adoption Story of Love and Resilience
“Make it a great day that ends with a smile in your heart.”
Growing up, I always heard my father speak variations of these words. They’ve always sort of been ingrained in my head, but now more than ever are forever planted. He lived by them. He breathed them. And in doing so, he instilled them in me so naturally.
They weren’t just encouragement—they were a way of life, his life, and how he chose to show up each day. He was naturally positive, uplifting, and, without exaggeration, the best human I’ve ever known.
From a very early age, I …
How I Found Myself on the Other Side of Survival
“Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.” ~Doris Mortman
For most of my life, I believed my worth was tied to how well I could perform.
If I looked successful, kept people happy, worked harder than anyone else, and stayed quiet about my pain, maybe—just maybe—I would be enough.
That belief didn’t come from nowhere. I grew up in a home where fear was a constant companion. Speaking up brought consequences. Being invisible felt safer. I learned early to smile through it all, to stay small, to never be a …
To My Narcissistic Friend: Thanks for Being My Toxic Mirror
“It’s okay to let go of those who couldn’t love you. Those who didn’t know how to. Those who failed to even try. It’s okay to outgrow them, because that means you filled the empty space in you with self-love instead. You’re outgrowing them because you’re growing into you. And that’s more than okay; that’s something to celebrate.” ~Angelica Moone
I’ve had the most unusual, baffling, and frustrating experience with someone recently. And yet, it’s also been a massive catalyst for growth. I’ve seen myself more clearly by observing the behavior of someone who, in some ways, is a lot …
How to Reconnect with What You’re Hungry For
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anaïs Nin
What is it about us that makes us wait for permission? To do what we want. To be who we are. We wait until we’ve “earned” it, until we’re thinner, smarter, more talented. Until we’re finally good enough.
Everyone has dreams, right? Some want to travel. Some want to write a book. Others dream of running a marathon. Or something smaller: a bold haircut. Or something bigger: quitting a job that drains you.
And …
The Surprising Reason Many People Are Still Stuck
“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” ~Anaïs Nin
I never imagined I’d be fired.
It wasn’t because I didn’t have the qualifications or experience. In fact, I had built a successful academic and consulting career. I had studied leadership, organizational behavior, and human development. I had read the right books, taken the right classes, built the right résumé. I was, by all appearances, doing all the right things.
But after …
Walking My Mother Home: On Aging, Love, and Letting Go
“To love someone deeply is to learn the art of holding on and letting go—sometimes at the very same time.” ~Unknown
Nothing has softened me—or challenged me—like caring for my ninety-six-year-old mother as she slowly withdraws from the world. I thought I was strong, but this is a different kind of strength—one rooted in surrender, not control.
She once moved with rhythm and faith—attending Kingdom Hall for over sixty years, sharp in mind and dressed with dignity. She’s a fine and good Christian woman, often compared to Julie Andrews for her beauty and radiant grace. But now, she rarely gets …
How to Make Peace with Uncertainty—One Ritual at a Time
“Rituals are the formulas by which harmony is restored.” ~Terry Tempest Williams
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual.
One day, it’s a relationship you thought would last. Another, it’s a career path that suddenly dissolves. A health scare. A financial setback. Aging parents. A terrifying diagnosis. A global pandemic.
If you’re lucky, you haven’t experienced all these—yet. But let’s be honest: we are all living in the liminal.
The space between what was and what will be is where most of life actually happens. Yet we rarely talk about how to be there. We try to optimize or …
The Truth About Self-Worth: We Don’t Need to Earn It
“Success isn’t about what you do; it’s about who you are. Just existing—waking up, breathing, being present—is enough.” ~Unknown
On my third trip to the emergency room, I lay in a hospital bed, ten weeks pregnant and nine kilograms lighter. I had just vomited for the forty-seventh time that day. My body felt empty, but the nausea never stopped. An IV dripped fluids into my arm, and I didn’t swallow anything for the next five days.
Hyperemesis—a rare and severe condition that affects about 1% of pregnancies—typically subsides by twelve weeks. For me, it lasted my entire pregnancy.
For fifteen …
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