“We often say ‘love’ when we really mean, and are acting out, an addiction—a sterile, ingrown dependency relationship, with another person serving as the object of our need for security.” ~Stanton Peele
When I was sixteen, I fell in love. At least I thought I did. I had all the symptoms—quickened pulse, butterflies, and a head so full of him that all my pain and all my problems magically disappeared when we were together.… Read More
“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” ~Henry Ford
A few days ago, a close friend called me and asked for advice on whether he should end a toxic relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He still loved her as a human being, but he felt that she was using him for her own personal needs, such as a ride from the airport, and did not truly care about his well-being.… Read More
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha
Relationships give us the opportunity to learn about ourselves though identifying with another. I’ll be the first one to admit that some of my relationships didn’t end on ideal terms. I’ve managed to stay in touch with a few partners over the years, but for the most part, they’ve fallen to the wayside.… Read More
“He who sits in the house of grief will eventually sit in the garden.” ~Hafiz
My life has fallen apart around me.
I ended a five-year relationship with a man I thought I wanted to marry, quit a full-time office job with no further prospects, and moved back to my tiny hometown to live with my parents.… Read More
“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” ~Buddha
I have always been ambitious, hardworking, dedicated, and driven, but I have also made some serious mistakes in my life.
I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do early on in my career, so I pursued several options in college.… Read More
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James
I’ve been meditating for many years, but there are still days when I feel like it’s something I need to tick off my to-do list.
On some days, particularly when I’m in the middle of a big project, it can feel hard to put even ten minutes aside for meditating.… Read More
“There are two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations.” ~Jodi Picoult
I grew up with a lot of expectations—from other people in my life and from myself. I had to finish school, do my best, finish college, get married, have children, and be a success in everything I did.… Read More
“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.” ~Osho
Once, during an AmeriCorps leadership retreat, I was asked to create a motto for my life, a mission statement for my future. I was handed a blank piece of paper and I was terrified.
At the time, my life was filled with uncertainty.… Read More
“All men are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.… Read More
“We cannot achieve more in life than what we believe in our heart of hearts we deserve to have.” ~James R. Ball
I was a binge eater. At night. Every night. No one would ever have guessed it because I was at a healthy weight. I believed that my weight was too high a number, so I would try to fix it.… Read More
“Goodness is the only investment that never fails.” ~Henry David Thoreau
A few years ago I found myself on the floor of my apartment with a bottle of Jack Daniel’s, feeling miserable.
In fact, I had felt that way for a while. My four-year relationship had collapsed, work was losing its meaning, and I felt deeply misunderstood, unloved, and lonely.… Read More
“See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort.” ~Dalai Lama
I was a perfectionist growing up, always trying to bang my flawed round-shaped self into a perfect square hole that couldn’t possibly contain me.
In my early twenties, I decided to focus on personal development—a positive thing, I assumed.… Read More
“Life is a process of becoming. A combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” ~Anais Nin
Meaningful relationships are crucial to our happiness. We need the human bond to feel connected and joyful, and we enjoy life much more when we share it with people we love.… Read More
“What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.” ~Brené Brown
I think most of us can reflect vividly on the turning point that brought us toward where we are today.
Often during these transitional periods, major life events push us to pursue the peace of mind we have always dreamed of having.… Read More