Dear cath:

Your mother sometimes helps you and then, she hurts you at the same time. Helps and Hurts. Isn’t it the reality of it? Hurts and helps and hurts. This is why so many children, minor and adult children are so confused. Most if not all abusive parents are sometimes helpful, even loving-like.

Imagine the most abusive mother, she is sometimes helpful, or often helpful and also abusive. So… what to do?

Get away and have nothing to do with her, is my input! Give up her help and you will give up her hurting you.

anita