Hi everyone, I was hoping I could get some advise.

About two and a half months ago I met this great guy (lets call him B). Anyway, we just clicked on every level! We have the same views on everything, like the same things and he is so sweet! For example, when I did bad on an assignment, I told him about it and he bought me flowers and told me he would come with me to see my professor — to talk about my grade — if I wanted (I did decline but thought it was really nice). I am not the only one who thinks we make a great couple either, all my friends think he is great as well.

Here is the problem though. He told his family about us and now they want to meet me — his Mother told him he should bring me when he next visits. Normally, this would not be a big deal, right? The problem is his family lives in Indonesia! When he first told me about how his family wanted me to come with him on his next visit we both sort of laughed it off. Then, I went home and told my mother about it and she said “well why not go” and then I thought, “yeah! Why Not!” So long story short we will be spending two weeks in Jakarta in July — by that time we will have been together for three months.

Now I am having a bit of buyers remorse….I am so excited to go to Indonesia, we are going to do a bunch of fun things, but should I really be going? Is this too soon? Did his mother just ask me out of courtesy — B says she was serious but maybe she was not. I am also a little bit scared of his mother now…apparently she always wanted him to marry a Indonesian girl and I am 100% Caucasian. Also, he has a sister who had a previous boyfriend — who B thought was a nice guy — and basically his mom made her break up with him so she could date this other guy that his mom liked — who B thought was a bit of a jerk.

How should I prepare myself to meet her? What should I do if it does not go well?

Thanks,
Decdog