Hi Strawberrygrrrrl,

Thank you for sharing your story, and you ask a valid point of “How to let go?”

Funny thing is as I read this I realised within myself an aspect of what it meant. My own belief structure has been that once you let something go, that you should never be affected by it again, and if you are, then you have not truly let go. Live with the pain, but not allow it to affect you (etc)…..

Yet…. throw a big rock into a pond….. the stone settles to the bottom almost instantly (reality) but the water is churned up for some time to come (thoughts/emotions). The goal is not to be rid of your thoughts/feelings/attachments, but to understand and recognise they are there, and continue on your walk around the pond. Most of us keep throwing more rocks into the pond trying to ‘fix’ things, without realising what we are doing, and why we feel trapped to our past, or current circumstance. The water will settle all by itself, if we allow them to be, and realise they do not define us.

Also, there are many things that happen during a relationship that is simply not visible to the eye. Energetic connections, on the physical, psychological, spiritual levels, and the mind can not make sense of them. The reason many people say listen to your heart, is that the heart can understand, but it doesn’t speak in words. Its language is via feelings or impulses.

Try to feel what you need for yourself, and not what your mind/emotions are telling you. Moving forward does not have to make sense your mind at present, nor do you have to justify why you are choosing to do what you do. As long as you are moving toward love, and self love, and self acceptance, then the direction is correct.

Toward love or away from love….. 🙂

Best

Evan