Hi Jorgeplath,

Im scared of taking another career and that thing happens to me again, not having the same time to enjoy my passion that makes my blood boil

I can understand wanting to do something different, especially if it’s not fulfilling and not contributing to your mental and physical well being. In this case, you have a passion for theater. But don’t let fear of having to change anything control you. Change is natural, change will happen whether you like it or not. In this case, you can control the ‘change’ because you can choose to start another career path or not. So you actually have control over where you want to go in life. This can be daunting for some people because it feels like a lot of power and you don’t want to mess up. So you shouldn’t be afraid of choice nor change, just understand that they are things we all have to go through in our lives.

My careers options are Education, Dentistry or marketing.

Why not do something in theater? Why not pursue something in drama? What is it that makes theater a passion for you? I ask because it seems that you are only interested in making money to afford to go to theater classes. Working for money in order to do something else you want to do makes sense, but will it make you happy? If it will, then what career you choose won’t matter, as long as you are happy and can follow your passion.

Marketing will let me work and let me pay for my own theatre class

I feel like you have already made the decision for yourself. If your unsure about the career you want to pursue, then why not try work experience? or look up people who work in these industries and ask them for their honest opinions on their jobs, lifestyle, pay etc.

I hope this helps,
MAtty

Dear Jorgeplath:

You wrote: “I have recently changed up my career path. i did it because strong personal reasons.”

The key term here for me is “personal reasons”- these are all the reasons that matter in your choice: PERSONAL. If you are an adult, you are not married, have no children and are okay with the possibility of not having children in the future- then personal reasons are the only reasons that should guide you.

It should not be about Parental Reasons: what do my parents want me to do? It should not be Societal Reasons: what does society deem valuable? It should not be Wife-to-be Reasons: what would a future wife want in me?

It should be personal. But then, you have to be okay about your parents’ disapproval, societal disapproval and the possibility of being a less attractive choice for some women. You have to endure the distress of some other people disapproving your choice.

You wrote: “One of them (personal reasons) was because it was not letting me develop my passion, that is musical theatre. I was a medicine student, which became very depressing for me at the end.”

It will be distressing somehow to risk and to experience the disapproval of some others, for not taking the secure-income route. It is between this distress and the depression you experienced.

What is your focus: others or yourself? And if you do choose yourself, then be prepared for the distress and also, be prepared for the possible future consequences financially.

Please do post again.

anita