Hi Norg!

One of the best books I’ve read on dating/love is “If the Buddha Dated” by Charlotte Kasl. In it she suggests when we’re scared to do this exercise – take what your fear to its most logical conclusion. It works like this…

“I’m scared of getting hurt again.”
What would happen if it did?
“I’d cry for days.”
Then what?
“I’d never date again.”
Then what?
“I’d be alone.”
Then what?
“I’d be lonely.”
Then what?
“I’d want to call my friend.”
Then what?

You get the idea. Eventually you break down it down into bite sized pieces and it’s no longer so overwhelming, and you can think about it with a clear mind.

I don’t know if that helps, but when I read your message I thought of that. Only other words I leave you with is don’t let possible worst case scenarios dictate your life. Someone once said, “I regret the things I haven’t done, more than the things I have.” You don’t know what will happen. You may fall out of love…or it may last until your dying day! Who knows!

Sending loving kindness your way.