Dear sublimechange:

There are some articles online that may be good, such as, maybe “shrinking the toxic inner critic” – I think the wording is, by a Pete Walker, on his website.

To shrink the abusive/ toxic inner critic, first need to pay attention to it when it is .. talking to you, detect it: oh, here it is! Here is what it is saying… Then re-talk to yourself, the CBT thing- evaluate what the critic is saying for accuracy, and correct your thinking, make it accurate. Basically you replace the abusive inner critic with a new, loving and gentle inner critic.

You… kind of get a new Parent installed in your brain…Takes time, dedication, persistence and a whole lot of patience.

Post again.

anita