Dear vgold:

I wonder what the deal is in Houston. There is a woman living there. He and her used to be girlfriend/ boyfriend, having physical intimate relationship. For a year they haven’t but he stays with her every weekend. He also pays her rent, other expenses and schooling and intends to continue to do so until she is employed as a lawyer.

Does he have a child or children with her, I wonder?

Are they legally married in the U.S, or maybe they got married in his original country, I wonder.

Are they sleeping in separate rooms every weekend, really having no physically intimate relationship? I wonder.

“The other woman” is the title of your thread and I understand why it is. I would say, while you are considering returning to a bf/ gf relationship with him, find out more about the nature of his relationship with the other woman. Ask questions.

If he is no longer bf/gf with the other woman, maybe you can join him for a weekend in Houston?

anita