Dear Ravi:

A Warning: the following may feel very uncomfortable for you. Please read it in small portions, over time, or not at all.

The reason The Lion King death scene touched so many people, is that for so many, it awakened a great pain- the pain of losing the IMAGE of a loving parent, a protector; the pain of losing that feeling of safety of early childhood.

The moment Simba realized his father was dead was the moment he lost his safety, protection, physical and emotional. We cry because it reminds us the moment we lost that childhood innocence, that belief that our father or mother are those wonderful people who love us so much and will do anything for our safety and well being.

This is an unbearable awareness for a child, to lose that safety, either a parent dies, or … maybe worse, to see a parent who wants to hurt us (like Scar) or a parent who is hurting us (wanting or not) and doesn’t see us hurting.

That is the loss of innocence. This is the injury that needs attention.

And that is the injury that got triggered in you in the past, causing you to lash out at Jerry with anger. This is what I believe.

Before writing the message to Jerry, need separate the old injury, the loss of innocence, the loss of belief in the all-loving-parent FROM Jerry. So far there has been an overlapping of the two.

Thoughts, feelings…?

anita