Dear Leo:

I reread your original post and I don’t know the answer to how you let go of an emotional attachment, how you can no longer feel emotionally attached. As hard as I tried to void my emotional attachment to my mother, I failed to do so for over fifty years.

And I just realized as I typed the last sentence that indeed most recently, and after a process of a bit over five years I myself did indeed successfully let go of my attachment to my mother.

How did I do it? I am trying to answer this in a short paragraph, thinking as I type:

The attachment to my mother was formed when I was a child, not by my choice, but by nature. As a child I did not have a separate identity from my mother. In my brain (as is in all children) my mother and I were one unit of identity. In the last few years, following my first psychotherapy with a competent therapist in 2011-2013, and successfully only recently, I extricated my mother from this Unit of Identity. So not I am Me and she is no longer me.

anita