i find it is so much easier to let things run their natural course rather than beating yourself up for a fault that your inner bully makes it seem is there. i remember when i couldn’t do a pull-up and wanted to for junior year and it was an of-on practice where my inner bully would tell me that i was lazy and i wouldn’t ever be able to be strong. well i visualized myself doing a pull-up every day, ignoring the inner bully that was holding me back and i would spend ten minutes at the bar flexing. i also bench pressed to help my triceps and also did push-ups. i also tightened my abs, b/c i read that you tighten your abs, pull your shoulders back and use your triceps to bring you up and your biceps to steady yourself. it took a few tries and i forgot about my goal for a while, but when talking to one of my friends who knew how to do a pull-up, i was inspired again and i vowed to work on it. at first, my inner bully would be annoying and i would fail, but slowly i learned not to beat myself up and slowly relish the idea of becoming stronger and visualizing the goal. i began to trust myself and the process and push the inner bully back and now i have decent workout that makes me feel confident. so the main lesson i learned from this thing is to push away your doubts, go for your inner strength and confidence and trust that you will succeed and not to beat yourself up when things aren’t perfect, but take the mistakes and work on becoming better.