This appears to be classic emotional abuse. Abuse doesnt have to be physical, Emotional is much more hurtful mentally and emotionally. Google “Emotional Abuse” and Emotionally Abusine Relationships”. Wealth of information and I had found that it was a classic example in my case. Very subtle, but it worked on my mind and self esteem, until it ate away at my authentic self. Please do google this subject, it will be enlightening. It will name what you are experiencing and how to deal with it.