I’m a guy, can completely relate to what you said about online dating, and I’ll say this from my point of view:

At any point did the two of you talk about “pet peeves” or things that are important to you? It sounds like communication if pretty important to you. Have you ever conveyed that to him?

With the fries story… I can imagine I’ve probably been guilty of something like that at some point. It could be it didn’t occur to him that you were inferring you might like some of his food. We’re guys. We’re inherently dumb and not all that perceptive.

IMO, it sort of sounds to me like you’re settling with this guy/relationship. Speaking from (plenty of) experience, don’t do that. Life is too short. If you want a guy who is more on the romantic side then decide that and by some means (in your profile, on the first date, etc) convey that.

Anyways, I wish you luck. 🙂