Dear mrsinconsolable:

I don’t believe in fate, therefore my answer to “Is it just fate?” is No.

Regarding “is there a rule that I can’t do anything and will be sad forever?”

Yes, there is a rule that when you were hurt and scared repeatedly as a child, that- unless you heal- you will continue to be hurt and scared as an adult. This is so because as a child your brain is in the process of forming, and once formed (as an adult), the hurt and fear is part of your brain. The healing process is about the gradual undoing of connections between brain cells and the making of new connections (This scientific term for the latter process is Neuroplasticity).

You wrote a couple of times that your childhood was amazing. I am supposing you meant that you had a very good childhood. I don’t know what you mean by it.

If you’d like to explain to me what you mean by an amazing childhood and if you are willing to consider the possibility that your childhood was not as good as you think it was, please let me know.

anita