Hello again Anita,

I don’t think he can physically hurt me; he is a weak old man who surfer from some health issues. I am not worried about him hurting me; I am worried about me hurting him verbally and emotionally — because I will tell him what he hates to hear, including that he was jealous of me and my higher education and my money and everything I achieved during my 20s and 30s and he failed to achieve during his entire life.

I will protect myself from him. BTW he knows that I am strong and actually very logical and reasonable during tough conversations and confrontations; I am not afraid of anybody; A lot of people see me as a charismatic self-confident man and rely on me to help them out in their own problems. Two years ago when I confronted my father with his mother (please refer to my post to Pink24 above), he almost break-down and cried and said sorry to me.

I haven’t mentioned the details of that in my post to @Pink24 above but let me briefly say it now just to get it off my chest anyway.. Two years ago my father angrily told me that Mr. ABC (who is a good friend of our family) has told him that your son Sam (me) is having an illegal affair with many bad girls! Just like that! I was not having such affairs and I considered it as an attack on my reputation and social image, so I asked my father: Did you believe Mr. ABC? and he said: (Yes I do, he is my best friend and he is an old gentleman who never tell lies).. So I went over and confronted Mr. ABC face-to-face, and to my shock he denied the whole story altogether. I wished to die that day! I really wished so! MY FATHER IS A LIAR AND HE IS TRYING TO DESTROY MY LIFE. I asked Mr. ABC to confront my father back which he thankfully did and rebuked him badly. My father felt ashamed but did not attempt to say sorry to me.. So I escalated the subject to his mother, my grandmother, and told her the whole story. She loves me without limits, so she stood by my side against her son, my father, and she actually warned him that he is not her son anymore if he do not fix this with me. Ultimately my father found himself in a tight corner and apologized to me and shed a few tears.

Back to you Anita, Yes I can easily get a job overseas again and I don’t see an issue on that. I have a master degree in Information Systems Technology and a solid work experience in software development in top companies including Oracle — a giant American corporation.

To sum up, I think my father’s weak point now is that past experience of Mr. ABC and all its witnesses including his mom, but his main strong point right now would be that I am financially broke and hence I am trying to blackmail him or something! That is expected from him, so as a precaution I may consider confronting him after I get a job overseas again — which I am expecting to happen soon. Its complicated.

Thank you Anita