Dear rosierouge:

Let me know if I understand your situation: fifty years ago, or so, your oldest sibling, still alive but sick and dying, abused (sexually abused?) you and two of your other siblings (four siblings altogether). One of your sisters waited four decades before bringing up the abuse so not to upset your mother. Once your mother died, two weeks ago, she (and her husband) brought up the abuse and want your cooperation in publicly revealing the details of said abuse. You believe their motivation is to get financial compensation from your oldest brother’s estate. You don’t wish to go through that hassle and are considering cutting contact from that sister and her husband.

Am I correct?

Please let me know.

anita