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November 21, 2016 at 8:44 pm #120880JNV1Participant
Feeling alone and scared – in a period of 3 months, I’ve gone through a break up with a man I loved for 3 years, lost my job and am facing very bad news about my fertility from my doctor. Job, love and health, not to mention the future prospect of never having a family. It’s all too much to bear and I’m really struggling with why so many bad things are happening to me and all at once. I realize no one has it easy but I also had a horrible childhood and I just don’t understand what the purpose of all this pain is. How am I supposed to move forward and endure all of this? I’m 40 years old, I feel like half my life is over and I’ve always been anxious and depressed about the future. Now the future is here and it is bleak. What can I do to accept this reality and deal with the never-ending pain in my life?
November 22, 2016 at 2:18 am #120898VJParticipantDear sweet jnv1,
Yes, it is true that right now what you are going through is not one of those favourable situations one may desire in life and I do have deep compassion towards that.
I will suggest you something for each of your problems and I’m sure you will come out of it and I am not saying this for the sake of saying.
Regarding your health condition that your doctor just came up with- Trust me, I have seen/heard so many of such extreme cases and have noticed that due to advancements in the medical field you do still have the chances of becoming a mother, either by direct or indirect medical techniques. Be rest assured about that. Right now only focus on other issues that may require to “heal”. It’s not even about your job. You will get your job life back too. Simply keep applying to open job positions, as and when required and proceed further (more below).
It is also not about the love you lost. You are going to fall in love back again – with yourself, with life and in turn will have the love of your life.
“…Having a horrible childhood, always being anxious and depressed about the future, unsure about the purpose of all this pain, have a feeling that there is a never ending pain in life…”
For all of these and to regain back in all 3 major areas of your life – Health, Wealth, Relationships, I recommend you the following-
1. At first simply go through the below article with an open mind
Cellular Memory Healing: How to Clear Limiting Beliefs and Emotional Wounds at the Cellular Level
By doing so, itself will make many things clear to you.
2. On the similar lines, go through the FREE video series
http://www.dralexanderloyd.com/the-love-code/
3. Start following the process. Not a single penny you have to spend to do them. The instructions on how to do the technique is much better in the link in Point No 1. above, than in the video.
4. If you are still intrigued, or want to understand more, then you may also go through the book at the below link
You can also go through the positive reviews on the above link. Don’t get bogged down by negative reviews because there are going to be negatives for anything positive in life and you may not want to miss out on something good because of those.
For your additional information – ‘The Love Code’ was formerly called as ‘Beyond Willpower’
Please do post back your progress in life by whichever means you choose, The Love Code or by anything else that you do.
Take Care,
VJNovember 22, 2016 at 3:29 am #120900VJParticipantPS jnv1: If you are more inclined to viewing/listening than reading then check out the videos in No.2 at first and then go to No 1.
November 22, 2016 at 4:46 am #120904InkyParticipantHi jvn1,
For some reason 2016 has been a tough year for a lot (A LOT!) of people. There is at least one person in each of my sub-worlds (gym, church, family, online, etc., etc.,) who have had triple whammies. Oh my goodness, look at the election! If that’s not proof, I don’t know what is!
Some speculate that there is a cosmic shift going on. Other people, especially last year, were actually DYING. (Again, at least one from each sub-world). Look on the bright side ~ it might be getting better!
Another theory is that The Universe is clearing the decks for you. Perhaps you are meant to find a different and better love interest and job. And the fertility issue could be to raise some aspect of your consciousness on a higher level. Or, you are meant to adopt, have time for another “baby” (project, cause), be a mother in the greater community, or take part in a medical science breakthrough. Who knows??
A last thing it could be IS more sinister. I suggest you then amp up your faith life. Reading out loud the whole Book of Psalms has helped me tremendously in getting rid of negative forces.
Blessings,
Inky
November 22, 2016 at 9:40 am #120945AnonymousGuestDear jvn1:
My experience with having a horrible childhood is that the childhood pain is like a ball of dirt (dirt representing problems) going down a hill- year after year- gathering more and more dirt as it goes down hill. I don’t believe fate or a god has determined that my life is going to be about pain and the reason is that I learn something. I think that trouble begets more trouble until a person heals from the original injuries.
You are 40, and you wrote that this is your future- no, this is your present. My advice is to attend to your childhood injuries, competent psychotherapy perhaps?
anita
November 22, 2016 at 10:31 am #120946JNV1ParticipantDear VJ – thank you so much for the kind and thoughtful response. I am excited to check out the Love Code videos. Thank you so much – I’ll let you know how it goes.
November 22, 2016 at 10:33 am #120947JNV1ParticipantHi Inky – thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I love the idea that the Universe is “clearing the decks” and I do hope you’re right. I’m very much looking forward to starting fresh in 2017. I just need to restore a positive outlook and deal with my anxiety about the future.
November 22, 2016 at 10:36 am #120948JNV1ParticipantHi Anita – I so appreciate the time you dedicate to the community at Tiny Buddha. You’ve helped so many people with your thoughtful advice. I am thinking about going back into therapy and you’re right about dealing with childhood trauma before it takes over your adult life. Thank you for your kind words.
November 22, 2016 at 10:50 am #120949AnonymousGuestThank you, jnv1. I started my first competent therapy experience at 50 years old. Hope you can start yours ten years earlier!
anitaNovember 24, 2016 at 1:36 am #121023VJParticipantHi JNV1,
I just happened to post this information for someone else and realized that you may need it too if/when you go through the video series. So here it is as below –
The video series mentioned above also talks something about the seven principles but it is not read out in the series.
You will find them here along with a free downloadable link on this page – (http://beyondwillpowertogether.com/2015/07/15/seven-key-points-of-the-greatest-principle-revised-longer-version/)Also a Beyond Willpower (now called as The Love Code) workbook was designed if anyone needed more help in putting the concepts of Beyond Willpower into practice further assisting in completing the exercises in the book.
Workbook:
(https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Willpower-Workbook-Alex-Loyd-ebook/dp/B00U1TO9BG)Best wishes,
VJNovember 24, 2016 at 10:09 pm #121091XenopusTexParticipantInky: Hey now, there’s nothing wrong with the election. We’re just stuck with the gong show that has resulted from it. I’m more worried about the excessive amounts of human stupidity on display after the election than about the results. Seeing a big divide between the urban and rural communities. Really surprised that a ton of litigation hasn’t broken out yet. More troubling are the claims of “hacking” with nothing backing them up. Remember the threats the US made of doing cyber-attacks on Russia if it thought there was any hanky-panky going on? My concern is, we’ve got these allegations and nothing has been presented … how long before somebody thinks it’s a good idea to “poke the bear” and launch a cyber-strike?
Anyway, enough of that.
You do know what “clearing the decks” is for, at least originally, yes? 😛 I’d be a little nervous if the universe was “clearing the decks” in preparation for me… Especially if the universe’s equivalent of a 16″ naval cannon triple turret was swinging around to target me after the decks were cleared 😛
The Book of Psalms has some interesting reading in it as does Ecclesiastes (think I’ve got the right book). I am not sure that I’d take it as divinely inspired, but some of the material in there is pretty good for human understanding/knowledge back yonder.
Pain really doesn’t have a purpose outside of letting us know that something isn’t right. Could be physically, emotionally, etc. Sometimes it gives us a chance to fix/change/stop doing things.
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