Dear Russ:

The part of you that blames yourself is the same that blames others. I am referring to unjustified self-blame and other-blame. So you move from very nice, reaching out behavior to the silent treatment, withdrawal.

Healing starts with enduring distress without blaming another. And without blaming yourself. Instead: empathy to yourself, not blaming, not hating.

Do read my last post to you (25 minutes ago)- sometime. Keep posting.

anita