Dear Bernadette:

I think it is normal for a person to get lonely when not in a relationship, or not in a loving, healthy relationship. And so, being lonely in a village with very limited opportunities to meet new men, you end up thinking of your ex. Even though he lied to you and had lots of arguments, that is, even though it was a bad relationship and you shouldn’t get back with him, still you have some good memories.

When you are lonely, you miss those good memories. Unfortunately, if you did get back with him, you are likely to experience the same frustration and hurt of being lied to. That is never fun…!

anita