Just a quick aside: you will develop your own ideas about parenting, but I would say you should never share your distress with children. They are just not emotionally equipped to handle it. Part of your parental responsibility is teaching them how to deal with their own emotional upsets – not getting onto the team, losing something, failing at something, falling out with someone – not until they have completed this and are fully emotionally equipped adults should you start to share trauma
with them.