Hi all

My story well i was in a 16 year relationship from age 14 which ended in early 2015. Now divorced with 2 children but that was for the best and i was left with no emotional baggage or feelings.

3 months later i met someone who i dated for 6 months which she ended in feb 2016 sighting wanting different things, lack of time etc which i think was just a soft way of letting me down.

It crushed me and i rebounded twice into 2 short 7 week stints with two ladies which i am sure hasnt helped my healing process. I then met my current gf in august and we are still going strong. She is much prettier than this ex of the past and we are better matched and everything just feels good. My problem is i cant help having thoughts about the ex and wanting to talk to her even though i know i now have a better relationship. Ive had spells where i feel i have made great strides with letting go but then nostagia kicks in at some point. Had my first counselling session two weeks ago which looked at mindfulness and not reacting to thoughts and feelings but im struggling to let this pass amd im still tempted to try and talk to her even on a platonic level im just not sure if thats wise amd fair on my current gf. My head says contact will only cause more pain.

I really should be over this by now but think its because she was the first one i fell in love with as an adult as my wife was from getting together through school years. Maybe i struggle with rejection due to my upbringing where my father didn’t care to much to see me. I must sound really confused but i hate this constant daily battle with my mind and dont want to make a big mistake.

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