Dear pussycatlover:

As far as the guy is concerned, he was most likely flattered, and he was likely acting two ways: being… almost loyal to his partner (referring to her as a girlfriend at first, then wife) and at the same time being … almost flirtatious with you. I don’t think he thought of you strictly as a friend, an online friend, that is, but as a friend who likes him in a romantic way, which made him feel nice.

On your part you spent a long, long time hoping and hanging on to his words in hope that something more promising will develop. I am thinking you are shy otherwise (?), meaning preferring this distant knowing-not-knowing back and forth with a guy to an in-person direct communication with a man?

Does it feel safer online, like this experience has been for you?

anita