Dear Azouz:

You only saw this woman in person one time, during one short visit this January. Otherwise, she is your virtual/ computer girlfriend. you are very involved in her life, on a  micro-management level. I think you are not well, Azouz. I state this with genuine concern. Please seek competent psychotherapy.

This relationship is not healthy and you don’t see it. Strong emotions from your childhood need to be looked at, in therapy, emotions processed. No longer going cold, like you do. Get the feelings back so that you can have an in-person, healthy, loving relationship. This one is neither in-person, nor is it healthy or loving.

Seek the help you need. I did, six years ago and it did wonders for me. It can do wonders for you too!

anita