Dear Anita,

Okay. I’ll experiment and trust my gut!

My boyfriend is safe figure in my life. I am struggling quite a bit, however, because my healing is not his responsibility and I also cannot expect him to always reassure me or find my answers. This has led to many arguments in the past because asking him to fulfill the needs I cannot fulfill myself is unfair for him and me.

While he tries to provide me as much support as he can, I ultimately need to change my own thought processes and behaviors. So, while it’s important to have safe relationships with people in my life, I also want to develop a secure relationship with myself, if that makes sense. But how exactly can you heal and become stronger by yourself? It seems vague and hard to detect any progress, such as when I’m meditating or journaling.

Thank you!

Chanel